doom be doom be doom!

"Even to your old age and gray hairs
    I am He, I am He who will sustain you.
I have made you and I will carry you;
    I will sustain you and I will rescue you." ---Isaiah 46:4

Tomorrow will be start of an added chapter of my life. Looking back on the past years, I will always be thankful for God’s faithfulness and goodness into my entire stay on earth. Not to mention how immensely grateful I am for my amazing friends, loving kin, understanding work forces and all kind of support system I have. Yeah, I have really have SO much to give thanks for in everyday of my life! 

I am not perfect, I sinned but thank God His grace is boundless.

I am not complete, I have shortcomings but thank God His love is limitless.

I am not rich, but thank God His riches and glorious abound in me.

I may not have all my wants in life but thank God His blessings are immeasurable.

I am wanderer and dreamer.

I have lot of dreams I used to think over the night and then the next morning, it’s still a dream. HAHA! :D

I am a lover.

I love all of you! :*

I am antagonistic rebellion.

I fight for what I think is right.

I speak for what I think is good.

And for those people who get offended on me, who misinterpreted my behavior and misjudged my action, please understand me!  I am just being myself. Holalala.. :p

I am a survivor.

I survived the waves of the sea tossed on me.
I am a seeker.

I exist because I need to seek Him.

I am a server.

I’ve been called to serve the King of kings.

I am predestined to enjoy what tomorrow brings.

I get hurt, betrayed, cried a lot yesterday.

I am a scrapped piece from the nail pierced on His hand.

I am alive because of the life He offered from the cal vary.

Who Am I?

I am who I am because of You.

Life for me will still be a long way journey as I see now.

I pray to God to shower me strength to press through every struggle, endure every trial, and overcome every hurdle through the power of Holy Spirit working in me and through me.

My Creator, when I am down, let me hold on to Your promises from the moment You created my inmost being on my mother’s womb until my hair turned into gray or until the least second of my breath.

"Even to your old age and gray hairs
    I am He, I am He who will sustain you.
I have made you and I will carry you;
    I will sustain you and I will rescue you." ---Isaiah 46:4

~ycelah is signing off!

12/17/13

10:21 pm

10 WAYS A GOOD WOMAN WILL MAKE YOU A BETTER MAN

September 2, 2013 · by James Michael Sama · in Dating & Relationships. ·

As men, we’ve all been there. The relationshits where the girl you’re dating brings more drama than happiness to your life. Where her immaturity and jealousy stresses you out. Where you question if being a relationship is even something you want.

I do believe, though, that a good woman will bring many positives to your life.

A good woman will support you in all of your ventures. She will be your cheerleader and encourage you to chase after your goals and dreams.

A good woman will make you excited to come home at night. She will be your encouragement after bad days and the first one to congratulate you after good days.

Either way, she will be your reward after all days.

A good woman will make you want to be the best version of yourself, just by being present in your life. You will always want to be more and do more, both for her and for yourself.

A good woman will make you excited for each day to begin. Knowing you have the love of the one you love will give you a new outlook on life.

A good woman will never judge you. She will accept you as you are, giving you more confidence in yourself.

A good woman will teach you about life. The female perspective on the world is completely different than a man’s, and seeing things in different lights often give you a clearer view.

A good woman will be honest with you, whether you like it or not. While being supportive and encouraging, she’ll also tell you if there’s something you need to change and improve, and who doesn’t want to improve?

A good woman will open your mind to new things. Odds are you’ve got different interests – so embarking on hers with her will bring new experiences into your life that you may not have tried without her.

A good woman will help you see yourself how she sees you, in your best light. She will help you recognize the great things about yourself that she sees, and you may not.

A good woman will keep you grounded. Let’s be honest – there has been more than one occasion when you’ve gone to a female friend for advice on any given topic. To have a good woman be the voice of reason in your daily life, will keep you on the right track.

When you have the love of a good woman supporting you, there will be nothing you can’t accomplish.

10 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR GIRL FEEL SPECIAL

September 9, 2013 · by James Michael Sama · in Dating & Relationships. ·

1. Make her feel beautiful, every day.

This one seems obvious. Internet Romeos everywhere are reading this going “Hey man, I call girls beautiful every day!” I don’t mean just telling a woman she’s beautiful – any guy can do that. I mean make her deeply feel, in her heart, that you think she is the most heart-wrenchingly beautiful woman you’ve ever laid your eyes on.

Women are not often as confident as they come across. You need to reinforce her, no matter what. It doesn’t matter if she just got stung by a bee and her entire face is swollen like a basketball, she is still beautiful, and you damn well better act like it.

It’s not just in what you say – it’s in what you don’t say. It’s in how you look at her, how you talk to her, and how you touch her. Make her feel what you don’t need to say, instead of just hearing what you do say.

2. Be honest.

This is another big one. It may not seem like it, because honesty should be a quality that you express towards everyone in your daily life – but being honest with a woman you care about will show her that you respect her enough to be straight up with her.

Choose your words carefully, don’t express your honesty in a way that would hurt her feelings, but make sure she knows that she’ll get a straight answer when she comes to you for one, no matter what it’s about.

3. Kiss her. And not just on the lips.

Now’s the time to get your mind out of the gutter – When was the last time you gave your girl a kiss on the forehead? On the nose? On her hand?

Sometimes these actions speak even louder volumes than a kiss on the lips. They show her you want to be close to her, and you care about her. Plus, they’re more appropriate in public, so you can show her affection and not be arrested by the PDA police.

4. Don’t compare her to other women.

There’s really no reason to do this in the first place – but a woman shouldn’t be made to feel that she’s the ‘best’ out of ‘all the other girls’ because it implies that there are, or have been, other girls. We’re all adults, we realize everyone has a past, but there’s no point in bringing it up.

Instead of making your girl feel like the ‘best’ girl – make her feel like the only girl, because she is.

5. Don’t miss the little things.

Chivalry is a common theme in my blog posts – but that’s because it’s a big one. Often times the small things you do for a woman are the ones that count the most, because it shows you’re willing to put in effort for her just because you want to, and not due to a special occasion or event.

Don’t let the little things fade. The opening of doors and pulling out of chairs, holding her hand no matter how long you’ve been together, hugging her from behind for no reason – all speak louder than words you can say.

6. Listen.

In a healthy relationship, each partner relies on the other for love, guidance, and advice. Sometimes, just taking the time to genuinely listen to what she has to say, and not saying anything at all – will say more to her than your words ever could.

If a woman is complaining to you, remember that it means she trusts you enough to express her feelings to you. Don’t betray that trust.

7. Start, and end your day with her.

Even if you can’t see each other every day, by sending her a simple text when you wake up, and before you go to bed, she will know she’s the first and last person you think of every day. That is priceless.

8. Give her massages.

I never thought I’d have to put this one in here, I give my girlfriend some type of massage literally every time I’ve seen her in the past 10 months of being together. Yet, when girls talk about getting a massage from their boyfriend it’s like it’s some special occasion saved for birthdays and holidays.

It’s not that hard, guys. She’ll appreciate it, and return the favor…

9. Respect her wishes.

You may not always agree with everything your girlfriend says or does. But, mutual respect is the backbone of any healthy relationship. Speaking of backbone – respecting her wishes doesn’t mean sacrificing yours, but it does mean being willing to bend it a little bit for her. You don’t always need to get your way. Plus, you might learn something from her.

10. Remember the little details.

Whether it’s the date you met, the song that always makes her cry, that craving for french fries she gets once every 6 months, or that perfume she loves – paying attention to small details and doing something about it to surprise her, will show your woman that when she talks, you hear her.

It shows her that no matter how busy your life is, despite the pressure you get at work, or the millions of other things you need to worry about – she holds a special place in your heart, and your mind. A place uncluttered by the other noise in your day, or the hectic life you probably both live.

A place reserved just for her – and that, gentlemen, is special.

7 WAYS TO MAKE YOUR MAN FEEL APPRECIATED

November 5, 2013 · by James Michael Sama · in Dating & Relationships. ·

If he is a true gentleman, he will do all of these things, and more, without expectation of anything in return. Your happiness is his reward. That being said, though – a basic human need for all people is to feel wanted and appreciated, especially in relationships, and especially when they perform selfless acts for others.

If you do have a good man, it’s important to let him know that what he does for you, matters. Even if it’s just in small ways. Here are some suggestions, in no particular order.

1. Pick up the tab.

Anyone who reads my articles knows that I believe a man should always pay for dates. Not just the first date, but all dates. It’s just the way I was raised and it’s what I practice in my daily life. However, if your guy is always treating you to nice dinners, or if you’re on vacation, and you slip your card to the waiter without him noticing, he won’t hate it.

It will show him that you appreciate the things he does for you and that you’re willing to take care of him every once in awhile, too.

2. Dinner at home, after a long day.

A few months ago, I was interviewed on a podcast in the UK about chivalry in modern relationships. One of the things I was asked was, “How can women be chivalrous too?” An example I gave was that it’s easy and inexpensive to have dinner and some wine waiting for your man when he gets home after a long day.

It will completely free him of any stress from the day – and you don’t even have to be a good cook. Just pick up the phone for take out.

3. Do your nails.

This one might seem a little weird, but hear me out. Often times in relationships, you get comfortable. A lot of time is spent on the couch in sweats, and sometimes those are the best nights. But, it’s important to not let yourself go. Make sure he knows you still want to look good for him by paying attention to the little details. (He should do the same, of course).

4. In the bedroom.

I have always believed (and practiced) that a woman’s needs come first in the bedroom (no pun intended) absolutely every time, no exception. Just make sure that your man doesn’t get forgotten or deprived in the process. It’s a team sport.

5. Show him he’s a priority.

We all have busy lives. Friends, family, work…things can get crazy. It’s unrealistic to put a significant other before all of these things all the time – but make sure you include him where you can, and don’t let him feel boxed out, shuffled to the bottom of the deck, or unwanted if you get too busy.

6. Be affectionate.

As simple as this one is, it is often overlooked. Small things like hand-holding, walking arm in arm with him, or resting your head on his shoulder (or chest if you’re laying down) make him feel like he’s one with you, and protecting you from harm – something all good men should want to do.

7. Tell him.

If you appreciate what he does for you, tell him.

Relationships, and romance, are a two way street. A good man will give all he can to you and never ask for anything in return. However, that doesn’t mean that a woman shouldn’t take small steps to show him that what he does makes an impact on her life, and she cherishes having him in it.

A little bit goes a long way.

10 WAYS TO KNOW YOU’RE DATING A TRUE GENTLEMAN

November 6, 2013 · by James Michael Sama · in Dating & Relationships. ·

A man may be able to put across a great image, but it could simply be a cover for hidden shortcomings, or he could just be totally faking it to ‘get the girl.’

Here are some ways to know if you’ve struck gold:

A true gentleman values more than just your looks.

Is every compliment from him about a different body part? It doesn’t matter how creative he can be, if a guy’s sole focus is on how you look, or ‘talking dirty,’ see it as a red flag. A real man will value your personality, your kindness, your intelligence, and who you are as a person, in general. The things he makes you feel good about will be things that you control, not just results of getting lucky in the gene pool.

A true gentleman will never be intimidated by your motivation.

A man who has goals for himself, will want to be with a woman who has goals for her own life, too. He will never feel intimidated or threatened by a woman who goes after what she wants. He will want to be part of a power couple, rather than a dictatorship. Be mindful of anyone who tries to keep you from pursuing your dreams.

A true gentleman will have more interests than just you.

I don’t mean this in a negative way. You should, of course, be a priority in his life – but he needs to have a life as well. Interests, friends, hobbies, aspirations. If a man works his entire life around you, it’s another red flag – relationships should be a great part of your life, but not encompass your whole life.

A true gentleman will give you answers.

No matter how awkward or uncomfortable a situation is, a real man will approach it, and you, with respect. I have always felt that a mark of a man is how he handles conflict, criticism, and less-than-ideal situations. A man will not dance around answers or make excuses. If there is something you two need to talk about, he will talk about it.

A true gentleman is direct.

In addition to the last point – there will be no mind games or manipulation in your relationship. A man will be direct, to the point, and honest with you…but with kindness.

A true gentleman will trust you.

As long as you haven’t betrayed his trust, a man will NOT be paranoid, or snoop around invading your privacy to make sure you’re not doing anything bad. He will have confidence in your relationship. A boy will project his own insecurities onto you, and like termites in a house, will eat away at the foundation of what you’ve built.

A true gentleman is cool, calm, and collected.

It should be understood that part of what comes with the territory of having a girlfriend, is dealing with her getting hit on. If you’re at the bar together, or if she’s out with her friends, it goes without saying that your girlfriend will get hit on every once in awhile.

Instead of letting his primate instincts prevail and beating his chest like an angry gorilla to scare off competition, a confident man will calmly make his position known, and understand that you’re still going home with him at the end of the night.

A true gentleman will show you respect.

Nothing signifies an empty shell of a man more than someone who disrespects women, animals, or children. A real man will treat you with the respect that you deserve, never force you to do anything you’re uncomfortable with, and never mistreat you. Be honest enough with yourself to walk away from any situation that is dangerous to you, physically or emotionally.

A true gentleman will put effort into your relationship.

Boys are generally apathetic and just look for one thing from a woman. A man, will do what it takes to make you happy, both inside and outside of the bedroom. Your happiness, is his reward.

A true gentleman will make you want to be the best version of yourself, without changing who you really are.

A man will empower those around him. He will strive for greatness and therefore inspire others to strive for it as well. This not only includes friends and co-workers, but also significant others.

As Mark Twain said - Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.

If you do have one of these men in your life, make sure he knows he is appreciated.